Bullying in the Family

Source:Time Online- Health and Family Section
By: Alexandra Sifferlin

Brothers and sisters fight, but when the bickering evolves into physical or emotional abuse, it’s bullying.

Ordinary arguments over toys and who gets the front seat are one thing, but a recent study from researchers at the University of New Hampshire reports that aggression between siblings can escalate into bullying, and that young victims can be harmed in the same way as those who are threatened by peers on the playground.

In fact, say the study authors, the being bullied by a brother or sister was linked to worse mental health outcomes for kids and adolescents, similar to those associated with being bullied by unrelated kids in the schoolyard.

The new study, published in the journal Pediatrics, involved thousands of children and adolescents throughout the U.S. and found that those who were physically assaulted, had their toys stolen or broken, or endured emotional abuse that made them feel frightened or unwanted by their sibling had higher levels of depression, anger and anxiety than those without these experiences. About one-third of the kids had been targeted by their siblings for physical and verbal abuse and overall, these children showed more mental health symptoms later than those who weren’t subject to bullying.

In order to study any differences between the effects of sibling bullying and those of being threatened by an unrelated bully, the researchers compared the effects of aggressive behaviors such as physical violence, breaking or taking toys or belongings, and abuse such as name-calling or taunting, originating from siblings to those coming from children’s unrelated peers. They concluded that as far as mental health effects are concerned, the relationship that the victims had with their bullies didn’t seem to matter. The findings showed that sibling bullying had the same association with increased anxiety, depression and trauma as peer aggression.

That’s an eye-opening result since most parents — not to mention the public — have a higher tolerance for fighting and even threatening behavior among siblings than they do for other social relationships. “If siblings hit each other, there’s a much different reaction than if that happened between peers,” said the study’s lead author Corinna Jenkins Tucker, an associate professor of family studies at UNH, in a statement. “It’s often dismissed, seen as something that’s normal or harmless. Some parents even think it’s beneficial, as good training for dealing with conflict and aggression in other relationships.”

But when does that normal squabbling evolve into something more? Parents may unknowingly play a role in escalating some sibling fighting into abuse, John V. Caffaro, a clinical psychologist and the author of “Sibling Abuse Trauma,” told the New York Times. If parents allow children to continuously fight and confront each other in aggressive ways without intervening, or if they play favorites and label children as “the smart one” or the “the quiet one,” that may lead to more unhealthy competitiveness between siblings that develops into abuse. Caffaro said that since violence between siblings is one of the most common types of familial violence, so aggression with the intent to physical hurt or humiliate a brother or sister should be taken seriously, and quashed.

While the results are intriguing, and point to another possible way in which young children can feel victimized, the researchers say they only documented an association between sibling bullying and mental health effects. The children and their parents were only interviewed at one time during the study period, so the results do not confirm that aggressive behavior by brothers and sisters can actually cause mental health problems. Still, the findings support prior research that showed sibling bullying is common, and the fact that other studies document the lasting effect that peer-related bullying can have on mental health — into adulthood — make sibling bullying worth investigating further. In fact, Tucker and her colleagues hope that the results prompt more programs that address bullying at schools to consider potential threatening behavior and abuse within sibling relationships as well.

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